Anniversary

So today is our 6 year anniversary. Looking back its gone by so fast, but there has been moments that I thought would never end! We've all had those days!!!

We met online and he wouldn't stop sending me smiles and trying to chat, and I ws thinking...yeah whatever buddy you are 4 years younger than me...go away! But he was persistant so I thought I'd just say hello.....and 4 hours later I logged off that night thinking, wow he's cute and so nice! So that happened again for 3 more nights and then he asked me out for coffee to meet.

***side note;, we lived blocks away from each other when we "met" online, we also lived blocks from each other growing up, never met. And lived in Ontario at the same time, he was doing road construction by this bakery in the tiny town I lived in, I would pass by him and the crew everyday and we never met. But then we logged online one night and found out how many of the same places we'd been to, and never crossed paths!

So I said yes to coffee, but for all I knew he could have been a murderer, so I told one coworker what coffee place I was going to be, so that If I went missing they could start the search party there!! And I asked my friend to call me at exactly 10pm to make sure I was still alive. (hmmm do you think I've watched too many scary movies? lol)

Coffee date went well, conversation flowed nicely, and we decided to go for a walk around the airpark. (later this is the place he proposed about 3.5 years later) So it was almost 10pm and I think he was getting ready to try to kiss me, his hand was on my lower back and we were looking out into the water...very romantic...than the cell starts ringing! Doh!!! And All I heard (and he heard for that matter) when I said hello was my friend speaking in her outside voice "Are you horizontal or vertical?". I almost died of embarassment right there, pretty much hung up after saying i'm fine, simmer down now. But we both started laughing and it totally ruined the mood, but it made the night funny.

And we haven't been apart since. Six years of laughter, tears, adventures, lazy rainy days, junk food nights, game nights, fun nights with friends, nights home sick with the flu, nights at the barn dances, more laughter, more tears, some fights, stress of buying a home, more stress of that pregnancy test saying positive, the joys of meeting our baby girl for the first time, more laughter, dorking out, having lovins, road trips, going for walks, spending time at the beach, or at the lake, drunken nights, sober living, lots of hugs, and even more kisses, hard times, awesome times, and I dont regret one single day. All of it brings us to where we are today, two loving parents who are trying to grow together and raise a beautiful sweet little girl. And two people who fell in love that summer six years ago and promised that no matter what happened to us or what nasty bump we'd hit along the way, that we will always be true to our love and work as hard as we can to overcome it. We made a commitment to make it work and not give up on each other long before we bought the house, long before we had the baby. That we would always be there for each other and always be the best of friends.

I love my best friend and I am so blessed to have him in my life!
And we will always keep laughing....
xoxoxo Happy Anniversary baby! xoxoxo

looking for love

So I was watching a tv show today about TWILIGHT fans, all 10 gazillion of them. And they made some really valid points about why some of us older girls love the Twilight movies so much. And it really struck a chord with me. Watching this teeny-bopper craze brings me back to when I was 14 years old and had some serious first crushes, puppy loves and big dreams about the word love, and everything it entailed. It takes me back to an innocent time in my life, where "bills" were for my parents, and the only responsibility I had was to show up to my babysitting gig I said yes too. This Twilight craze brings me back to a pivotal moment in my life where I was learning what is love all about. And when will I find my Prince Charming....or Corey Feldman. lol

It's different for everyone, but when I was 14, 15, even 16 I truly believed with all my heart that I would end up with a man who swept me off my feet. Who gave me shivers and fireworks exploding every single time we kissed, just like in Dirty Dancing.....that my Patrick Swayze was out there waiting for me. And just like in all my favorite 80's/90's movies when we would glance across a crowded room I could feel the electricity down to my toes. Movies were such a big part of my development in my teen years, whether it was the right or wrong way to teach me about love....that's what I remember. And thats what I found myself always searching for....that one true love. Because wasn't that the message in most of them? Finding your one true love.

But we all know the real truth about love. Love stinks sometimes. It is all about responsibility, commitments, and scrutinizing over the bank statements. Kind of takes that whole romance factor out of the equation. Don't get me wrong, it's not like that all the time, some days are so fun and filled with love and kisses and little stolen moments across the room at a party. But it is definitely not like the movies. Its hard to have that sexy time with your partner when you're in your finest jogging pants with bleach stains on your t-shirt from scrubbing out the tub, a baby screaming for her supper, and laundry piled up on the couch waiting to be folded.

Twilight movies, or ANY teeny-bopper romance movie just takes me back to the simple times. When my grade 9 boyfriend and I would make out in the woods....lol...(yes mum you read that correctly.) And when nothing mattered more than getting your permed hair just right with the Aussie Sprunch spray to make those bangs perfect and large! Your scrunch socks had to match your shirt (sometimes layered with a few pairs)and your jeans were pinched and tucked into the socks. And dont forget the matching scrunchie for your hair if you had gym class that day!! Life was simple back then. Some of the best movies for teen romance were from that time, The Lost Boys, Pretty in Pink, 16 Candles, The Breakfast Club, Dirty Dancing, License to Drive, Anything for Love, St. Elmos fire...they all made me who I am today I swear!

So I say go on with your bad self Twilight fans....dream it and enjoy it. And in 20 years when you are my age you'll look back on how Team Jacob or Team Edward consumed your innocent little life. And how you just KNEW it one day you would meet Rob Pattinson and he would be yours!!!

I will always love movies, but as for which team i'm on Team Jacob or Team Edward.....I am 100% Team True Blood.....this mama likes the sexy older, blood sucking vampires!!! lol. Team Jacob could get me prison time...16 will get me 20, isn't that the expression! :)

Positive words

So today I learned something new! That always makes for a great day, I think! I was talking with a lady from the Child Development Center, who comes every two weeks to do speech therapy and fine motor skills work, with my daughter. She has taught us sign language, and just useful different ways to teach my child the simple things that she's struggling with. Like using a spoon, sipping from a cup, stacking blocks on each other all the fine motor skills. She is having great success with all the extra help from our new friend and she's mastering holding a crayon, using a spoon, trying her cups to drink from. Its been so fun to see her achieve little milestones that alot of other parents take for granted that their kids pick up really fast. And she's so proud of her little self too!

But today was a special day for us. It all started when my daughter was playing with her new friend and the lady asked her to pass her a certain toy, and my daughter threw it at her head, with alot of anger. I wasn't really surprised because its something thats been happening alot around here....everything gets thrown at our heads when we ask for it. So as a mom, my first response is to say "Don't throw that". And my friend was telling me that I should try a different approach. (anyone who knows me as a mommy knows i'm always up for advice on things that could help out! I am learning here!) She says that everytime I say "Don't touch, or Don't throw", in her little 21 month old brain, she's hearing Throw, Touch, and the "don't" part of it, just tells her little head that mommy is upset with me. So she suggested that I change how I say things to the positive. Instead of Don't throw, she says to say, "We pass toys gently", or just plain old "Give it to me" (in a nice voice of course!) She said when she had a daycare years ago, she learned quickly that when the kids were all running around and she would hollar "stop running" they heard running, and nothing ever changed. So she changed the words to "we walk in this house" and she said almost instantly they would calm down and stop running.

And it got me really thinking...how can I put this positive spin on my everyday life, not just to my child. And it got me thinking of my relationship with my fiance, and my parents and sibling and other family, co-workers, even clients. That in everyday scenario's I think alot of us use negative words, instead of positive words, without even realizing the damage we are doing to our souls. How many times have I looked in the mirror and said "Gosh i'm so fat", "oh these pants are too tight because my butt is so huge". I dont remember looking into the mirror and saying "hey hot stuff, you look amazing today" hahaha, ok i dont have to go that far but you catch my drift!

Life is all about how we make it. And when bad days happen, and trust me, they will happen to us. How do you approach the situation? Is your glass half empty, or half full? Try going one day correcting yourself on how many times you say something in the negative spin without even realizing you are doing it. Try a "yes" day where all day long you let your child do whatever they want, eat whatever they want (within healthy reason of course) and stop yourself from saying "don't" so often. I tried it today and I had to bite my tongue so many times! I had no idea how often I'm telling her not to touch something....just because it bothered me. Not because it was actually dangerous. I mean if she changes the channel on the tv on me, is life really going to halt to a stop?

I challange you all to try it. At my work I'm in the beauty industry, and all day I have clients asking "would this style look good on me?" and its up to us to spin it around so that they leave feeling incredible. Instead of saying "well you dont really have that kind of hair like the picture", maybe suggest we do a similar style thats a little more customized for your face shape and for the amount of time you are willing to put into styling it everyday. That sounds alot better than "no you dont have thick enough hair for that".

I really think by putting a positive spin on everything you say, will make your life happier. And it will be alot easier to handle the bumps in the road.

Life is beautiful....say yes!!!!